What does it take to truly be happy? Why are so many around us miserable? Is there a secret formula we aren’t aware of?
Clinicians, although under a lot of stress, are no different then most. Today, I just want to touch on three things that are essential to achieving happiness:
1. Living in the present
2. Finding purpose
3. Enjoying the process
Everyone complains about EVERYTHING. Isn’t it amazing how people would rather sit around and complain about a situation, but do nothing about it? Arguing and criticizing makes some feel as if they are doing something productive.
The reality is all they have managed to accomplish is self deception. Not only is this is an utter waste of time, but it is also putting you into a negative emotional state.
If you are constantly filled with negative thoughts, then negativity becomes your reality. You will create more and more problems, because that is what you are attracting with that mindset.
Instead of whining about what you did wrong or blaming others for your mistakes – do something about it. Realize the mistake, fix it, and move on!
Realize that any moment, whether good or bad, is your moment. Live it. Embrace it.
No one is entitled to anything and no one is promised tomorrow. The only thing you are guaranteed in life is an expiration date. It could be today or it could be in 50 years. Either way, theres an end.
Worrying about the future also prevents you from living in the present. When people stress about the future, they are stressing over something that hasn’t happened. We create these elaborate and dramatic scenarios about what might happen. Don’t waste your time doing this. It keeps you from being truly present and it keeps you from really enjoying the now.
I’v studied successful people and they all start out wanting to make money; lots of money. But, once they ultimately reach that goal, they realize there has to be more to life.
Money is a goal most strive for because of the social conditioning the media has thrown at us. Once you have money, you start to realize it is irrelevant and you are actually most happy when helping others. Once you can find your purpose you will be well on your way to a better life. Be the person you want to be.
Last, but not least, enjoy the process. Realize there is no end. Stop focusing on an end point and instead focus on the journey.
At first, regardless of what you are doing, you will “fail” and you won’t get the results you are looking for. Does that mean you should quit? No! Everyone has to go through this phase before they can achieve greatness.
The problem is, if you are simply looking for immediate results, you will quit. When you aren’t getting the results you want… keep going, keep learning, and keep improving.
If you enjoy what you are doing, the negativity will bounce off, allowing you to push through all the bullshit. After a while, you will have realized that you elevated your skills to a level never previously thought possible. Once you can forget about results, you will start to get them.
Enjoy the now. Find purpose. Be happy.